times more exciting.) And because you’re connecting with the dogs on a deeper “she-fits-into-my-life-perfectly” level (rather than just “OMG SHE IS SOOOO CUTE”) it will hopefully spur more meetings, more adoptions, and more lifelong connections.
Psychologists often paint a picture of human mating as visceral, instinctual. In courtship and display, sexual competition and rivalry, we are also guided by what Glenn Geher and Scott Barry Kaufman call Mating Intelligence--a range of mental abilities that have evolved to help us find the right partner.
There’s the “Quick Match” option where you select your activity level, preferred type of party, a word to describe yourself, and dream dog personality characteristics.
Or there’s a longer “Full Quiz” (which still only took us about five minutes) that asks Briggs-Meyer-esque questions: “Are you more caring or logical? ” “I prefer a quiet evening at home to a social outing with friends: Agree or disagree?
So I tend to not believe self-reported reasons for why we do things.
Back when we were single, we did a lot of online dating. An 18-year-old in Leonia, New Jersey was dog- and house-sitting for a friend when she decided to make the dicey move of inviting a Tinder match over.
One time, we thought we had met our soulmate, but then we went over to his house and discovered he only had three possessions: tons of weed, lots of cash in Ziplock bags, and old Yankee Candle jars that he used as drinking glasses. The man (whom she had never met, obvs) showed up with a buddy.
The rest of the case's details remain murky, but there is some good news: The family told NBC4 that they have since found the dog.
Finding the right life partner is very similar to finding the right dog: You need to be compatible, you need to have a special connection, and you need to feel ready for a major commitment before you take the leap.